I had an experience today I wanted to share.

I am a wife and a mother. I have a 14 yr old son, and I fall into that (oh geez do I have to) 40 crowd.

Today I spent the day with my son at his Boy Scout troop’s annual Ski Camp. My husband and I are both leaders with the troop, and anyone who has been exposed to scouting knows about maintaining “Youth Protection Trained” and “two deep leadership” during such events. I spent the day as the only female there with 23 boys. This would be every woman’s dream, until you take into account that these guys ranged from 11 to 17 years old (and I this includes the ‘adult’ leaders—after all they are kids at heart too…..right).

Knowing I was in for a long day, I took my copy of New Moon to read. The boys were loading up on the pontoon boat getting ready to go tubing and knee boarding, when a couple of the boys started commenting on my love for Twilight. I am used to taking the good natured ribbing from my son, and a few of the others who know me. One of our older scouts, who was on the boat house with me, spun around and asked “Are you guys talking about Twilight?” I told him “Yeah” as the younger boys on the boat started arguing between Team Edward or Team Jacob. The older scout then proceeded to look at me and say “I hate Twilight!” His buddy beside him asked him if he had seen the movies, and he replied “No!”

My first thought was how can you hate something you know nothing about, so I asked him “Have you read the books?” He told me no and that he had not voluntarily read a book since middle school (but that is a blog for another day).

Now is one of those times when I wish I could turn the ‘brain filter’ off and just say what crossed my mind, but being who I am, I didn’t. My thought was “Okay Mr. senior /football player/stud-wanna-be, have you ever thought that you might be able to learn something from these books? Millions of women and girls have not fallen in love with them for no reason at all.” For me one of the most enchanting qualities about the books is the relationship of Edward and Bella. How Edward professes his love for Bella and he treats her like a lady (a truly lost art in my opinion). Edward is exactly the boyfriend I was looking for in high school and college. I can tell you they were hard to find 20 yrs ago (I got really lucky), and from what I see, much harder to find today.

I wish there was some way to open the minds of those guys who just don’t understand. There is something more there. Yes they are considered ‘chick flicks’ and yes they have (really) good looking actors in the movies, but there is also a learning experience there for those who want it.

Imagine how much nicer the world would be if there were more guys following Edward’s example of how to “court” a lady.

P.S. Yes I plan on having my son read these books before he starts dating…….it may not work, but then again, you never know.

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Comment by imaGINAtion on August 15, 2010 at 8:55am
@Photo06 Merle ~I LOVED YOUR STORY!!! I too am in the same boat as you with a son and he thinks I'm nuts becuz I'm a twi-mom but he didn't understand the underlining of why, which is what you just explained to a tee up above!! (However, the last time I put my new moon dvd in he actually stuck around awhile instead of quickly fleeing out the back door!)
As far as dating, it is slim pickin's out there, I too wish more guys would have the chivalry that Edward has, but I can't hold my breath any longer! Times have really changed...I'm just so glad that the wonderful Stephenie Meyer brought me back to reading again -beginning with her twilight books, and now the Host. ~Great story!
Comment by ivy on August 15, 2010 at 8:55am
I think it's a boy's philosophy: "If you have balls you can't be romantic" or sth... In our days, Many men believe that real men have to be "players" if you know what i mean...
Anyway, you should just try to make your son a good man, not an another jerk...
Comment by luna on August 15, 2010 at 8:59am
nice... thanks for sharing !
Comment by Adina on August 15, 2010 at 9:00am
I really love that Alison featured your blog-post.This kind of experience is happening to me a lot even if I'm not married,I don't have a boyfriend or a son..I'm only 13 years old :) But the common thing between us is that we both love twilight.I know millions of people who hate twilight just because it's a popular movie and their favourite movie/book it's not.That's pretty sad 'cause they need to learn how to love more things and also appreciate them .Every book( and movie) it's unique in its own way and we can't just say we hate something before we truly know it very well,or just a part of it.From what I understood that guy really hates twilight for no reason.I have a quote on my mine all the time when I'm thinking about twilight :"The winner it's always alone" There can't be two best movies on a contest but there can be two favourite movies in our hearts.
And by the way...Don't let your son to treat girls like some guys do.Just tell your son how much some girls love to have their Edward ;)
Comment by Debi on August 15, 2010 at 9:02am
Both of my boys (13 &14) have read the books, and they have aready taken a page from it. My 14 year old stopped dating a girl because she wanted to go "all the way" and it made him uncomfortable, and my 13 yr old burned a very sweet CD for his girlfriend and bought her a cute t-shirt for her birthday. I think that they made an impression on them because we talked about the story together and they actually "get it"!
Comment by SickMasochisticLion on August 15, 2010 at 9:04am
I'm a 30 year old male 5th grade teacher, and I LOVE these books (I'm the one that got my wife and her girlfriends to read them). I completely understand and agree with the sentiment of your post! I know a guy very similar to the one you wrote about, whose closed-mindedness smacks of ignorance, insecurities, and a fear of trying something new or out of his comfort zone. It's too bad, but then I guess you can't make a horse drink the water you lead it to, or whatever. Gr. I also love the relationship, and wish we lived in a society where men weren't so afraid to dive into, embrace, and be entertained by a story such as Twilight.
Comment by TeamEdwardForever<333!!=) on August 15, 2010 at 9:21am
i agree. even though i'm like 13, i have a twin brother. and he hates it when i talk about twilight. he likes to say he is team jacob to annoy me since im team edward. another reason he says he team jacob is because he is the hotter one. lol. but, the 2nd team he says is team tyler's van. now that really annoys me. but, i forced him to watch twilight and new moon on a car ride to see my family. a couple of months ago, i told him the main parts about each book and he was able to tell me what main events happen in the books. that was an accomplishment. but he still hates the series with all of his guts and is going to see vampires suck. so what can you do? lol
Comment by Raissa De Oliveira on August 15, 2010 at 9:27am
That's what I feel about stupid Miley f****** Cyrus, she says she hates it & everything about it when she won't even just watch the trailer of the movies or read the books AT ALL. By then I already hated her, THEN she said she hated Justin Bieber & that he sounded like a girl but now that he's more famous then she would've expected she claims she's BFFLs with him. ;P
Seriously don't judge a book by its cover. Same thing for Justin., he's a really great guy.
Comment by Jean on August 15, 2010 at 9:40am
I love your sharing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for saying it!!!!!!!!!
Comment by Ivanna Cullen on August 15, 2010 at 9:47am
i don't get it. how can he hate something he doesn't know about. it is stupid. those are the persons i don't like. my message for those is " GROW UP"


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