I had an experience today I wanted to share.

I am a wife and a mother. I have a 14 yr old son, and I fall into that (oh geez do I have to) 40 crowd.

Today I spent the day with my son at his Boy Scout troop’s annual Ski Camp. My husband and I are both leaders with the troop, and anyone who has been exposed to scouting knows about maintaining “Youth Protection Trained” and “two deep leadership” during such events. I spent the day as the only female there with 23 boys. This would be every woman’s dream, until you take into account that these guys ranged from 11 to 17 years old (and I this includes the ‘adult’ leaders—after all they are kids at heart too…..right).

Knowing I was in for a long day, I took my copy of New Moon to read. The boys were loading up on the pontoon boat getting ready to go tubing and knee boarding, when a couple of the boys started commenting on my love for Twilight. I am used to taking the good natured ribbing from my son, and a few of the others who know me. One of our older scouts, who was on the boat house with me, spun around and asked “Are you guys talking about Twilight?” I told him “Yeah” as the younger boys on the boat started arguing between Team Edward or Team Jacob. The older scout then proceeded to look at me and say “I hate Twilight!” His buddy beside him asked him if he had seen the movies, and he replied “No!”

My first thought was how can you hate something you know nothing about, so I asked him “Have you read the books?” He told me no and that he had not voluntarily read a book since middle school (but that is a blog for another day).

Now is one of those times when I wish I could turn the ‘brain filter’ off and just say what crossed my mind, but being who I am, I didn’t. My thought was “Okay Mr. senior /football player/stud-wanna-be, have you ever thought that you might be able to learn something from these books? Millions of women and girls have not fallen in love with them for no reason at all.” For me one of the most enchanting qualities about the books is the relationship of Edward and Bella. How Edward professes his love for Bella and he treats her like a lady (a truly lost art in my opinion). Edward is exactly the boyfriend I was looking for in high school and college. I can tell you they were hard to find 20 yrs ago (I got really lucky), and from what I see, much harder to find today.

I wish there was some way to open the minds of those guys who just don’t understand. There is something more there. Yes they are considered ‘chick flicks’ and yes they have (really) good looking actors in the movies, but there is also a learning experience there for those who want it.

Imagine how much nicer the world would be if there were more guys following Edward’s example of how to “court” a lady.

P.S. Yes I plan on having my son read these books before he starts dating…….it may not work, but then again, you never know.

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Comment by Sam on August 15, 2010 at 9:53am
yu should . i mean its okay for guys to go and watch megan fox in transformers but its not okay fo us to scream for twilight . i mean guys have there way we have ours so shut up & deal with it like we do . & plus a good boyfriend would go an watch twilight with their girlfriend they may not like it but atleast they werent being a jerk & saying i dont wanna go ; but theyre being a good boyfriend and making their girlfriend happy . that has happened to me & my friends before & thats what i love about guys . & next time he disses about twilight , yu should say something smart ; like i come back. i mean hes 17 hes not gonna run off & tell his mommy . lol . . its like stepping up in what yu believe in ! fight the power ! lol :)
Comment by Cherry Mason on August 15, 2010 at 9:58am
Well said. I get teased about being a fan or by people saying how can you read and watch that stuff. I am 69 & will be 70 in Nov. I love the books and the movies are just icing on the cake. The actors are are not only great to look at(Beautiful & Handsome) most of them give to help a lot of great causes and help in making fans aware of them so we can help out. Not only does the Twilight Saga show how to to court a lady it shows how friendship should be. I could go on & on about how wonderful being a fan is and what it means to me. And how I am connected with fans around the world and making new friends through Twitter & Facebook because of Twilight Saga. Thank you for speaking up and sharing with us. I have added your comment to my facebook page.
Comment by Twi_love on August 15, 2010 at 10:00am
Haha,
A lot of guys who have never even read the books or seen the films!
More guys like Edward WOULD be nice.
Hope they"ll work for your son ;)
Comment by Eden Courtney on August 15, 2010 at 10:15am
A few weeks ago, there was a beautiful article at the Huffington Post site, saying exactly what you have said, that if men were smart they would read these books and they could learn what is in a woman's heart and mind. It's interesting that you posted this today, I, too, had a one-sided conversation with a woman who went off on a rant about how bad these books are for young girls and how they send the wrong message that it's alright for their boyfriends to be controlling and abusive...yada, yada, yada. When she finally took a breath, I asked her if she had read all of the books and guess what...she hadn't read any of them. I told her she was wrong and that she had no right to such a negative opinion when she hadn't even read one of the books.
Comment by Lindy Rosa Bella on August 15, 2010 at 10:18am
Honey I know exactly what you mean. I have had so many similar experiences. I've always had guys commenting and forcefully saying that they hate Twilight when they really don't know what the hell they're talking about. And you know what I find strange? It's like...when these small-minded people see anything related to Twilight...they're like..drawn to it. They don't know how to deal with it because somewhere inside them they do know that Twilight is something very different and beautiful. But they can't handle it. It's a spiritual thing. It's like...okay, well, what did Twilight do to you? "Umm..confused the hell out of me. I can't figure it out." It's one of those things, ya know? And whenever I get harrassed like that, I say, "Well..I have a reason why I love Twilight just like you have reasons for why you like other things. To me, Twilight is a beautiful story about love and redemption and how love can overcome EVERYTHING." That's what I say to them. And that COMPLETELY shuts them up. Because it's the truth. What can they say to that? They just have limited intelligence, that's all. They don't know what the hell they're even talking about. And yes, Edward is a wonderful example for guys in this generation. He's a man. And he treats Bella the way women SHOULD be treated. And that's another thing. That's the reason why most of the Twi-guys resent him. Because they're intimidated by him. and they're jealous because he knows how to act. so they go and like Jacob because Jacob is like them. Immature, careless, selfish, stubborn, arrogant, reckless...and pretty ordinary. do you see what I mean? I did have a boyfriend that had actually read all the Twilight books and liked them a lot. And he told me that he was really surprised at how much he could relate to them. He understood. You're right. Everyone can learn something from Twilight. Whether it's Edward's wonderful characteristics or the fact that the Cullens are examples of making the right choices, or even if it's from Bella. I've learned so much from Bella. Really. And that's why I respect her. She shows girls that they do matter and that you don't have to be somebody that you're not. And the Cullens...they're pure good. They don't surrender themselves to evil. They overcome it. And that's another thing. When you're young, you're always hit in the face with all this peer pressure and influence and a lot feel like that they have to give into it. But that's not true. They can be better than that. Always do the best you can. So, Twilight is really a story about hope. And the world has really blown it out of proportion with this Team Jacob and Team Edward thing. That's a total mask. It cheapens the real meaning of the story. That's why, when I explain Twilight to someone, I tell the truth. I don't focus on superficials.
Comment by Kim on August 15, 2010 at 10:51am
I totally agree! Boys could really learn some great things from Edward.
Comment by Hayley Pattinson (: on August 15, 2010 at 11:10am
boys these days - i myself have had a few run in's like this one.. and at that point i wish for nothing much than to be able to say what im thinking, and i also wish i had all the twilight cast and fans behind me, lol, but.. were passionate about something, the only thing their passionate about it sleeping, drinking, eating and playing sports - so reaally, i think we have to learn to brush it under the carpet, and be thankful we can come on places like twifans and express our true feeling with people we know feel the same as us :)
Comment by Deanna Jones on August 15, 2010 at 11:24am
You make a very valid point and I'd have to agree with you. Guys today could learn a thing or two from Edward, and you know what? I bet you they have seen or read the books but being guys they won't admit it. My fiance watches the movies with me and he seems to like them and like you I got lucky as well. Edward and Bellas love is old fashioned and oh so romantic and just the thing women like us are searching for. So to quote your title I do get it but they don't because they wither don't care or are just jealous that they don't have a relationship like that.
Comment by brutallyhonest on August 15, 2010 at 11:48am
A lot of people don't like the message sends out (cling to your boyfriend hard enough and he'll marry you. Don't deny it either, because Bella flipped her lid when Edward wanted to leave. She was catatonic after he boyfriend of a few months left. That is not, I repeat NOT normal behavior), other people don't like that the books are not well written and find that hard to read (I refuse to read Ernest Hemingway because of that), and others just hate anything thats TOO pop culture. It's just a preference I guess.

However, I do want to comment on your "Imagine how much nicer the world would be if there were more guys following Edward’s example of how to “court” a lady." Edward stalked her. I mean, imagine you wake up one night to find some guy you don't really know standing in your bedroom. Or turns up each time you do something a little reckless. A guy that tries to commit suicide everytime you guys hit a rough patch. I mean... that's stalker stuff right there.

And, that's why I'm team Emmett ;)
Comment by Kit on August 15, 2010 at 2:34pm
I only wish more of the male gender would read these books....they might really learn a few things.

Good on you for having your son read the books :)

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