I had an experience today I wanted to share.
I am a wife and a mother. I have a 14 yr old son, and I fall into that (oh geez do I have to) 40 crowd.
Today I spent the day with my son at his Boy Scout troop’s annual Ski Camp. My husband and I are both leaders with the troop, and anyone who has been exposed to scouting knows about maintaining “Youth Protection Trained” and “two deep leadership” during such events. I spent the day as the only female there with 23 boys. This would be every woman’s dream, until you take into account that these guys ranged from 11 to 17 years old (and I this includes the ‘adult’ leaders—after all they are kids at heart too…..right).
Knowing I was in for a long day, I took my copy of New Moon to read. The boys were loading up on the pontoon boat getting ready to go tubing and knee boarding, when a couple of the boys started commenting on my love for Twilight. I am used to taking the good natured ribbing from my son, and a few of the others who know me. One of our older scouts, who was on the boat house with me, spun around and asked “Are you guys talking about Twilight?” I told him “Yeah” as the younger boys on the boat started arguing between Team Edward or Team Jacob. The older scout then proceeded to look at me and say “I hate Twilight!” His buddy beside him asked him if he had seen the movies, and he replied “No!”
My first thought was how can you hate something you know nothing about, so I asked him “Have you read the books?” He told me no and that he had not voluntarily read a book since middle school (but that is a blog for another day).
Now is one of those times when I wish I could turn the ‘brain filter’ off and just say what crossed my mind, but being who I am, I didn’t. My thought was “Okay Mr. senior /football player/stud-wanna-be, have you ever thought that you might be able to learn something from these books? Millions of women and girls have not fallen in love with them for no reason at all.” For me one of the most enchanting qualities about the books is the relationship of Edward and Bella. How Edward professes his love for Bella and he treats her like a lady (a truly lost art in my opinion). Edward is exactly the boyfriend I was looking for in high school and college. I can tell you they were hard to find 20 yrs ago (I got really lucky), and from what I see, much harder to find today.
I wish there was some way to open the minds of those guys who just don’t understand. There is something more there. Yes they are considered ‘chick flicks’ and yes they have (really) good looking actors in the movies, but there is also a learning experience there for those who want it.
Imagine how much nicer the world would be if there were more guys following Edward’s example of how to “court” a lady.
P.S. Yes I plan on having my son read these books before he starts dating…….it may not work, but then again, you never know.